If you want the complete package....you have to be the total package yourself

Have you ever heard someone mention their checklist of what their ideal partner would be like?

I have, and it usually goes something like this:

1. Hot.

2. Athletic or in other-words, have a rockin' bod.

3. They need to be outgoing.

4. Some people have a hair-color preference.

5. A great sense of humor.

6. Good communication skills.

While many of these items are something that I would want in a guy, I think it is important to realize that if we want these things....we need to be them as well.

If we want someone that has an amazing body, yet we do nothing to take care of our own, we have a problem.

We want someone that is kind and generous, yet we act like a grouch all of the time.

How is that fair?

What makes us think that we are deserving of perfection from someone else, while we just coast along?

We get all of the benefits of being with this amazing person, yet their needs and wants are not being met.

They are essentially settling....and I think we all realize that settling is not good.

We have had all had friends or family members choose to be with someone that did not deserve them.

Someone that belittled, used, and drained them.

I do not want that to happen to me and I'm sure you do not either.

So, instead of making a checklist, how about we focus on becoming.

Let's become good communicators, if our goal is to be with one.

Let's become healthy and athletic, if that is what we are looking for in a partner.

Let's become more compassionate, if we want a compassionate person in our lives. 

I truly believe that when we broaden our horizons and work on improving ourselves, we attract similar people.

Oh, and when you do attract that person, you will be able to know if the relationship is worthwhile easily.

"One good yardstick as to whether a person might be the right one for you is this: in his/her presence, do you think your noblest thoughts, do you aspire to your finest deeds, do you wish you were better than you are?". - Ezra Taft Benson

Great people inspire you to be better. Their goodness and sincerity make you want to be a better person. 

Relationships are a learning experience. They teach us new skills and allow us to be influenced.

So, remember that you are not perfect...and do not expect perfection in someone else.

But do expect and demand that they try just as hard to make your relationship a success as you do.

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That is what my checklist looks like.

This year, I will work to become:

1. More studious

2. More spontaneous

3. More of a reader (I love to read but can never find the time anymore!)

4. More forgiving

5. More Spiritual

I hope that my guy's checklist includes finding a girl that loves pizza....because he will for sure be seeing some of this 

in his future.

But seriously, I love pizza and SLAB might be my new Pizza place.

You better believe that I ate every. single. bit of my Rosemary Potato and Bacon pizza that I tried this weekend. It was perfection.

Did you notice that my blog design is fully-launched?

 I hope you love it...because I sure do :)

It was designed by the amazing Casey Wiegand and Danielle Roy.

If you are ever in need of a blog design, I highly recommend these lovely ladies. 

They were so easy to work with and made me feel so important, even though my blog is just getting started.

Check them out here. You'll be glad that you did :)

Also, what are some characteristics that you are working to become? I would love to hear them :)